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Iluminada
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PostPosted: Thu 30 Jun, 2005  Reply with quote

I decided to start a thread on this. We kind of swayed from the topic on "Distant Healing" so I thought I'd start something here.

Today I am having such a hard time blocking other people's emotions from invading mine. I usually have my guard up but today I've felt exceptionally vulnerable. I've tried to walk away from people, played music louder than usual and even stay on LD4all longer than usual (if that can even be possible)
But I can't do it. Today I read Anamcara's story about her dog and couldn't stop crying. My chest hurt and all I could feel was guilt, remorse, longing and a whole bunch of other stuff. At work I could feel someone's bitterness towards someone else. It was so strong I had to leave my desk only to walk right into it. What kills me the most is that you feel it from certain people and their body gestures and facial expressions hide it completely but not their souls. Today in class, not only am I distracted but I can feel that the majority of everyone else is too, even the class instructor.

We talked about shutting it off but for the life of me I can't concentrate. I just want to be somewhere silent. I don't even want to go home because I can already feel everyone there too. This stinks so bad.

Any suggestions/opinions...


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PostPosted: Thu 30 Jun, 2005  Reply with quote

OMG that sucks...I'm not as sensitive as you but maybe you can try not fighting it?.... maybe just let it wash through you and out again...try to remember it's not yours and let it go, cry if you have to...Or visuallise good things happy memories and focus on that...you definitely need some alone time...usually when stuff gets too much it wipes me out..... go home and go to bed tell the kids you have a headache or something and then close the door....Do you have anything you can hold for comfort and get some good vibes from? Have you tried praying? I hope this helps or if it doesn't you find something that does

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PostPosted: Thu 30 Jun, 2005  Reply with quote

Try wearing a clear Quartz crystal pendant.
It worked for me.
Do a net search about the subject.
Learn about psychic
energy centers and how to close them down.


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PostPosted: Thu 30 Jun, 2005  Reply with quote

yes, i agree with anamcara. You need some time alone. Also a walk in nature (forest) can do a whole lot of good.

when you are tired, you are especially vulnerable to others. So stay rested. Recharge. Ground. Put a protective layer of Light around you in a meditation.

What helps me lately also is to tell those emotions you know are from others: go away, stay with that person, you are not my burden to carry. Remember everybody has their own path/choices in life. What they feel doing that is their business so try to let it flow off you. Why do you have to carry it too as it were? isn't it enough that one person already feels it.

i realise i write it now as if it is that the emotional stuff of others somehow flows to you. (i feel that way sometimes).

try to center on yourself, feel grounded. feel who You are. Feel that peace inside. Try not to be bothered by it, as weird as it sounds.

But most importantly, get your time for yourself. Do you have time for yourself each day? make room for it. Allow yourself alone time every day. Albeit 15 minutes.
Tell the others you are not to be disturbed then.


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PostPosted: Thu 30 Jun, 2005  Reply with quote

Go and sit by someone who is happy wink5.

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PostPosted: Thu 30 Jun, 2005  Reply with quote

Such the wise guy... It's not that easy for the most part.

Thanks everyone.. days like yesterday are so difficult. I practically hide. And I try to avoid conversation with people because I feel stronger than what I hear what they're saying. Mostly it gets personally emotional when I feel what someone's energy is towards me or anyone else in my family.

I did end up leaving class early and spending some me time before I got home and then left home again for some more b/c I had yet to gather my wits to turn it down.

I am going to try the quartz. And last night I spoke with my "illuminator" ^^ and he helped me shut it down so that I could sleep but that wasn't until 4am and I had to be up at 6 for work.

Q how does this affect you? and what do you do? If anyone has ever seen the movie "Kung Fu Hustle" there is a woman with the Lion's Roar as a skill. If I could scream like that to shut everyone up I would...LOL. But I can't even raise my voice IRL.


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PostPosted: Fri 01 Jul, 2005  Reply with quote

lach1 sureal tounge2
well it does help actually to be with happy folks :D

Iluminada wrote:
Q how does this affect you? and what do you do? If anyone has ever seen the movie "Kung Fu Hustle" there is a woman with the Lion's Roar as a skill. If I could scream like that to shut everyone up I would...LOL. But I can't even raise my voice IRL.


for me, all my life, i have felt that it was somehow my fault that somebody felt bad, and i always tried to do things to make them happy. Now i'm more attentive to this, and realize when i feel something from somebody else. I then send the energy back to the ppl who sent it.

People can litteraly "suck" at you, or dump their stuff onto you if you are open for it. I then visualize my aura and tell that everything that doesn't belong to me is grey, and then when i see the grey i imagine a big vacuum cleaner or rose or tornado or whatever feels will do the job, and clean it all out.

then i call my own energy to come and fill up the empty spaces.

you can do this in meditation, and when you have done it often enough, you can do it also quickly like daydreaming. But doing it while meditating works better smile

also smudging smile white sage, burn, and stand in the smoke.

helps also to smudge your room once in a while, especially when you had visitors smile


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PostPosted: Fri 01 Jul, 2005  Reply with quote

pasQuale wrote:
for me, all my life, i have felt that it was somehow my fault that somebody felt bad, and i always tried to do things to make them happy.
also smudging smile white sage, burn, and stand in the smoke.

helps also to smudge your room once in a while, especially when you had visitors smile


The first part of your comment I can completely relate to.

I definitely need to do some of these things. That night I tapped in to my friends energy for protection. I talked to him over the phone because he's so dang far. But I need to do this for myself.


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PostPosted: Sat 02 Jul, 2005  Reply with quote

Sureal wrote:
Go and sit by someone who is happy wink5.


Win.

Personally, I just go with the flow. For example, right now I'm really sad. For no apparent reason. But I can tell that something has happened to someone who is having a very rough time. It's a little late to try to contact this person physically, but when we next meet I will see what is bothering her. But right now, at this moment in time, I can only go with the flow. I can share her pain from here.

But if it's too much, I will engage in some kind of physical activity to get my mind off things for a while. I like to ride my bike, or play music. Or you could just meditate and clear your mind.


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PostPosted: Mon 04 Jul, 2005  Reply with quote

This empath thing; it is quite common for twins to share feelings like that, actually I've seen several occasions in which something like that occured. But that's not really empath, since they can only feel what the other half of the twin feels, not what other people feel.

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PostPosted: Mon 04 Jul, 2005  Reply with quote

Fadem wrote:
But that's not really empath, since they can only feel what the other half of the twin feels, not what other people feel.


You can actually develop it. I discovered it on accident while trying some advice from my Buddhist friend.

Oh yeah, and about my being sad the other day. I have some really bad news. I think that the person whose aura I felt is planning on suicide. What's worse, I'm not sure whether or not I can stop this person, or even whether or not I should stop this person.


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PostPosted: Mon 04 Jul, 2005  Reply with quote

What do you mean? Whether or not you should stop this person? I mean yeah if I was dying of some debilitating disease or something already... I would wanna take the pillow express..... but what possible other excuse is there?

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PostPosted: Mon 04 Jul, 2005  Reply with quote

VeryGnawty wrote:

Oh yeah, and about my being sad the other day. I have some really bad news. I think that the person whose aura I felt is planning on suicide. What's worse, I'm not sure whether or not I can stop this person, or even whether or not I should stop this person.


you can always call her up and ask her how she is doing. Ppl that are so desperate often feel alone and not anybody there to help them, that they see suicide as the only way out.

I know what you mean by whether or not you should stop them.. but what if that person actually commits suicide, won't you feel guilty you knew and didn't try to do anything for your friend?


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PostPosted: Mon 04 Jul, 2005  Reply with quote

Anamcara wrote:
What do you mean? Whether or not you should stop this person? I mean yeah if I was dying of some debilitating disease or something already... I would wanna take the pillow express..... but what possible other excuse is there?


You have no idea. I can't tell you why this person would want to do this. I would be betraying her confidence. Plus...it's too difficult for me to say. I couldn't bring myself to explain it even if I wanted to. Let's just say that the world can be a very, very cruel place sometimes.

pasQuale wrote:
won't you feel guilty you knew and didn't do anything for your friend.


Probably. But there's not much I can do. This person is in a lot of...unpleasant...circumstances, only one of which I can have any impact on. It's really a cache22 for both of us.


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PostPosted: Tue 05 Jul, 2005  Reply with quote

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