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I am a Lucid Dreamer: Commanding the Subconscious Mind
PostPosted: Sat 13 Mar, 2010  Reply with quote

I am a Lucid Dreamer
Commanding the Subconscious Mind

What if you could control exactly who you were and what you were capable of? You might say that at this moment you already have such an ability, but then why do you dislike certain foods or only hang out with certain people? Why is your hair like that and how come you don't wear something else? We are who we are based off of what we're used to and what we're comfortable with (especially if being comfortable means fitting in with others). The truth is, we are very controlled in our lives. Our friends, family, and even initial goals flood our lives, restricting us from doing anything "outside" of what we're expected to do. Well, perhaps there's a way to change that.

Almost four years ago, I posted a thread dealing with communication between the conscious and subconscious mind. I gave a series of steps and hints that allowed for people to see that in order to get something accross to their subconscious mind, they must word it correctly. Well, I've decided that I want to word most of that thread differently and perhaps offer a more stable approach at commanding the subconscious. What I am about to discuss does in fact deal with lucidity (for you can command yourself to become lucid), but it also pertains to everything else in life--from your wants/needs to your personality.

So, lets continue from here on out with the basis that you want to have the ability to lucid dream. Of course, your initial response to wanting to have a lucid dream is just that--you think about how badly you want a lucid dream! You might even shout "I want to have a lucid dream!". Now, let's think about what you're saying and how that actually affects your subconscious mind. When you express how much you want something, all you're really doing is causing yourself to want it more (I know this sounds obvious, but bare with me). Why is this bad? Well, you don't want to "want" a lucid dream, you want to "have" a lucid dream. Fortifying the notion that you want something will only cause you to obsess over it more and eventually beat yourself up when you don't get what you want.

Think of a high school crush for instance. Let's say you're really into that hot popular boy/girl that doesn't even know you exist. You think about them all the time and even fantasize for a brief moment what it would be like to actually date them. You continue to hype them up so much in your head that all other things seem to not matter anymore. Then, one day, that person happens to stand behind you in the lunch line, just waiting for somebody to talk to them. Since you're so hyped up, you begin to feel terrified when you even consider talking to her. What will you say? How will it turn out? These are things you didn't even consider because you were too busy wanting her--so instead of spending your lunch period getting to know her, you avoid saying anything and stand in silence as you wait for your food.

You really have to be careful when you think about what it is you're trying to shoot for in life--lucid dreaming included. It's very easy to get stuck on wanting a lucid dream, as opposed to actually having one. So, what should you think about, then? Should you say "I will have a lucid dream"? Well, no. Saying that you will have one gives your subconscious mind the perception that whatever it is that you want (ie lucid dreaming), you don't have the capability to have one now, but will in the future. When will you have one? At that point, not even your subconscious would know. Instead of focusing on wills and wants, what you should be considering is something much more concrete.

I went to see a hypnotherapist a few months ago for a phobia that I had. This phobia was a bit dabilitating and I felt as if I had no other way to resolve it. So I went to see this hypnotherapist and the first thing he asks me is how I have gone about trying to resolve my phobia. I responded with saying that I had told myself that my phobia wasn't something harmful and it was merely in my head. The hypnotherapist laughed and simply said, "Why would you try and convince yourself that your phobia isn't harmful when you could just change yourself to stop fearing it?" Of course, I thought this was much easier said than done, but kept listening to the guy nonetheless. He took out a sheet of paper and a pen and told me that he was about to give me the two most important words that anybody could say to themselves. He wrote something down and handed the paper over. Written in big letters, it said "I am". He then told me to write several sentences, all starting with "I am", and leading into something that I want to change about myself--one of which he recommended being "I am confident and free to live my life happily."

So, how does this have anything to do with lucid dreaming? Well, think about it. You are who you make yourself as. Every single thought that you think of is filtered through your subconscious. Your subconscious wants to help you--it wants to give you everything that you need in order to stabilise your life and hopefully make you happy. If you say you want something, it's going to allow you to really want something. If you say you hate something, you're going to form a strong connection of hatred towards that thing. Think about it--haven't you ever met somebody for the first time and judged them based off of their behavior and then using that judgement for every subsequent time that you see them? Perhaps that person was having a bad day when you first met them, and from there on out you considered them as an ***--when really they could be the most generous person around. Your subconscious will give you exactly what you ask for, you just have to know how to ask for it.

Still don't know how to ask for a lucid dream? Well, here are some that I've used: I am able to have a lucid dream; I am going to have a lucid dream tonight; I am lucid. The idea is that you want to tell your subconscious who you are. You don't want to allow it to base it off of the wrong thing and give you undesirable results (like blowing your chances for that hotty at school). Think of your subconscious as a computer and you as the programmer. It will only do what you ask of it, and it'll do it verbatim. All you have to do is find out what to say and hammer that thought in over and over until it becomes a part of you.

The usage of "I am" can be utilized anywhere and everywhere. It can turn you into an entirely new person and make life paths that were once invisible, visible. It's important to know who you are, but it's even more important to figure out and decide who you'll become. Since my sessions with that hypnotherapist, I've really come to find that my life has completely changed for the better. I'm happier, healthier, and I know exactly where I'm headed. My name is Ben, and I am a lucid dreamer.


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PostPosted: Sat 13 Mar, 2010  Reply with quote

Wonderful post. ^^
Gotta always say, the simplest solutions are often the best ones. But it takes courage to show things as they are, in their simplicity.
If you want to be something, just state it out loud and write it down. I'll be definitely putting this to good use from now on, so thanks BenDrummin58. smile

I'm tosxyChor, and I'm a proficient, skilled, resourceful, awesome Lucid Dreamer! biggrin



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PostPosted: Sat 13 Mar, 2010  Reply with quote

Brilliant! The whole "wanting only makes you want more" I believe is exactly wht's been my problem lately!!

My name is Mattias and I AM a lucid dreamer! grin

EDIT: Oh, and a few questions.
- Should I say it throughout the day? or while falling asleep or meditating is better?
- And should I say it a couple times and forget about it ot will it be more effective if I repeat it over and over and over?
- is it possible to "ask for too much"? (like "I am able to have long and vivid lucid dreams where I'm very conscious every night" or something like that...)
thanks wink


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PostPosted: Mon 15 Mar, 2010  Reply with quote

Mattias, since it's your subconscious, do whatever makes you feel like you're getting the point accross. Personally, whenever I perform a reality check or think about dreaming in general, I remind myself that I am a lucid dreamer. Additionally, as you mentioned, I repeat my mantra either until I fall asleep or for about two to five minutes if it's keeping me up (which is the MILD technique).

As for asking too much: no, you can't reach any limit. Like I said, your subconscious wants to do everything it's commanded to do to satisfy you. Now, if you're giving it paragraphs of information, I do think you could confuse both your conscious and subconscious mind due to the inability to concentrate and process everything at once. Keep your sentences short and simple--no need to add in fluff.

In the end, just make sure you do what you feel will work most effectively.


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PostPosted: Mon 15 Mar, 2010  Reply with quote

I would like to say that this has helped me quite a lot. Last night I read this post, it made everything seem much easier. Thanks Ben for this, I have been on an over 2 month dry spell and want to get back into Lucid Dreaming.

As I went to bed last night, I did say, "I am going to have a lucid dream tonight," stressing on the "am" part. So then I wake up around 6:20 or so this morning, I go to the bathroom and get some water, then I headed back to bed. I started to think that I could attempt a WILD while saying something along the lines of, "I am going to have a lucid dream right now." I first tried on my back, couldn't focus on my back, then on my right side, still no go. Then when I tried my left side, it was almost spontaneous, I sort of "dropped" into the dream. It has happened to me before, and it is so fast and instant, I have come to call it a "lucid rush" because I was awake one instant, but didn't go through SP or HI, but instantly entered my dream, then I opened my eyes and it was indeed a dream. A bit unstable at first but I got the hang of it. ^^

Later on as the morning progressed and I was having fun, I woke up several times. I continued to use the same mantra and did sort of a DEILD or chaining technique, and reentered the dream maybe 3 or 4 times.

All I can say is, this really worked for me, and I'm glad because I have been sort of stuck for that past several months or so. Thanks again.



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PostPosted: Mon 15 Mar, 2010  Reply with quote

Congratulations Sverak! That's awesome! ^^

I'm glad you're able to now see how easy it really is. And thank you and everybody else for the positive feedback--it means a lot. Keep up the good work!


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PostPosted: Mon 15 Mar, 2010  Reply with quote

Ben, thanks for your answers wink

I'll give it some practice. I've been thinking about "I am conscious in my dreams" or "I am lucid in my dreams". If that doesn't work I'll try something more specific.


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PostPosted: Thu 18 Mar, 2010  Reply with quote

I belive that works.I KNOW it works.How can you do something that you do not want?

I am Fawn and my dreams are lucid!


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PostPosted: Thu 18 Mar, 2010  Reply with quote

This is a really great post, Ben! I think the fact that you mentioned we can control if we have lucid dreams or not makes this idea so inspiring. I really want to take into concideration all the wise words I've just read as I'm falling asleep tonight, and just finally try working on becoming one with my subconcious. I would certainly like to share any results, so I'll be posting back soon. Happy dreaming everyone! ^^

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PostPosted: Fri 19 Mar, 2010  Reply with quote

I used this method for the past few nights...no lucids yet, but i have remembered more and more dreams each night extremly vividly, now if i can get my sleep schedule back on track i KNOW i am close to a lucid!!

...oh ya, I am Matt and I am a Lucid Dreamer and will remember all my dreams



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PostPosted: Fri 19 Mar, 2010  Reply with quote

Awesome! Great talk, agreed with "want to want" part.

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PostPosted: Sat 20 Mar, 2010  Reply with quote

This is an awesome guide! I'm going try this tech tonight! So... I AM Kevin (Vampirism45 isn't my real name of course tounge2) and I AM a Lucid Dreamer, and therefore I AM going to have a lucid dream tonight.


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PostPosted: Sat 20 Mar, 2010  Reply with quote

I'm an adventurer, an explorer, and a Lucid dreamer.

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PostPosted: Sun 21 Mar, 2010  Reply with quote

Bendrummin I am grateful for your post,

before i read all of it I want to contribute someting very important,

all of our residual self image is stored in sensing that this world and our self is real,
in altered states of perception we are free to re-create ourselves,

and i would like to discuss how to stay in that state, a childhood state of purity where everything is new and there is nothing to learn but what we choose to experience,

i think it has a lot to do with alpha/theta brainwaves , meditation, yoga,

if you think about the matrix where morpheus is taking neo for a walk in the city and he keeps running into people

, when we go into the world we are taught how to suppress parts of ourselves, even usually told DREAMS AREN'T REAL, which means that its impossible to be a lucid dreamer and explore a very real reality we go to every night until we change our perceptions about what dreams are

so,

pose pragmatic solutions in order to be in a "free mind" so that we can choose to experience reality the way we wish :
vegan diet ( high bliss, high vibration foods, as we are what we eat )
yoga,
hypnosis, meditation, tai chi,
philosophy, deep thinking, orgone, crystals,

lucid living

our next phase of evolution will come quickly , and will be about reclaiming our blissfulness and happiness, it will involve around veganism, incredibly high vibration nutrition, and a huge array of healing arts, a renaissance


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PostPosted: Sun 21 Mar, 2010  Reply with quote

Sverak wrote:
I would like to say that this has helped me quite a lot. Last night I read this post, it made everything seem much easier. Thanks Ben for this, I have been on an over 2 month dry spell and want to get back into Lucid Dreaming.


Hey, watch your words grin

Anyway...yeah, I knew this, I read it in NLP related books and articles.Thanks for the post anyways.

Your subconscious mind is more powerful than most people think.
Of course, mattias, no limits, as I already said somewhere else tounge1

Wording is important, because your subconscious mind takes no negations.
If you say ''I am not a lucid dreamer'', it's like you said ''I am a lucid dreamer.''

Or, if you say ''I will no longer have normal dreams'', it's like you said ''I will have normal dreams''.

Like Ben said, don't say ''will'', say ''am'' (all tho I noticed you used ''am going to'', which is similar to ''will'', eh?).

If you say something in future tense, who knows when it could happen, but...

If you say something in present simple tense, it is to become the present.I AM.

Period.


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